tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.comments2012-06-23T11:21:03.420-04:00Blessed with Two Beautiful AngelsKathy Kellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02567965038777921119noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-56958760799952867382011-12-23T02:01:35.870-05:002011-12-23T02:01:35.870-05:00The information is precisely one of the desirable ...The information is precisely one of the desirable source every reader should takes place of. Keep on partaking such useful information. Good LuckAdoption Serviceshttp://adoptionagencyreviews.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-31636959376466703182011-10-11T15:35:00.514-04:002011-10-11T15:35:00.514-04:00Kathy & Lisa,
I am sooo excited for you and so...Kathy & Lisa,<br />I am sooo excited for you and so happy that you have your new son! XO<br />JennaJennahttp://www.thekingsareadopting.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-30505414814591776192011-09-29T11:55:36.724-04:002011-09-29T11:55:36.724-04:00I think a lot of these parents who re-neg on the r...I think a lot of these parents who re-neg on the relationship with their children's birth parents (when there's not a safety issue) do so because they're insecure about their own roles as parents. My mother-in-law is so quick to speak ill of her daughter's birth mom and we don't bring our children around her because of this.<br /><br />Three and a half years out of the gate with our own open adoption, I realize that there is a very real feeling of 'who does this child belong to?' My family used to say that the 'real' mother was the one who gave birth, then after I became a mom they said it had to do with who raised the child. I disagree with both.<br /><br />A 'real' mother is whomever loves the child more than they love themselves. I love my daughter so much I am overjoyed that I get to share her love with Carri. Carri loves my daughter so much that she decided to do what was best for Julia even though it was so painful for her. I love Julia as her mother, the one who changed diapers for three years, wipes her nose and cuddles on the couch during "my little pony." Carri loves Julia as the mother who kept her next to her heart, made her, kept her safe, loved her, sang to her, spoke to her and told her that she loved her more than life itself for ten months and five days. I can't love my daughter like that, I didn't do it. I wasn't there. Do you know how profoundly grateful I am that she did that? She loves Julia in a way I never can. It makes her Julia's mother in a way I won't be. And you know, I celebrate that. <br /><br />Carri is beyond a best friend, she's our family. She is finally comfortable enough to tell me when she's hurting and I say what I can. She has every single right to hurt. It doesn't mean she regrets her decision, it doesn't mean she wants Julia back, it means she wishes we could both have a Julia. But since we can't do that, she mourns that things weren't different. I wish things had been different for her. I grieved when we were in the hospital with her. Part of me wanted her to say she'd changed her mind because I couldn't stand the fact that if it was so hard to watch her pain, she must be in agony living it. I grieved for weeks and punished myself because of it.<br /><br />Life is better for her now. She's happily a mother, joyously engaged and teases me several times a day through texts. Open adoption is wonderful, I just wish there was more of a way to prepare adoptive parents to help with the grieving birth parents. <br /><br />Wonderful post. Thank you!<br /><br />Good luck on your journey to grow your family!!Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01263222190554094815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-64537444582918025112011-09-20T17:19:59.521-04:002011-09-20T17:19:59.521-04:00Thanks for reminding us of this! It's easy to ...Thanks for reminding us of this! It's easy to get wrapped up in the happy emotions we experience and forget the heart ache of the BM. Check out my blog at www.thekingsareadopting.blogspot.com. I would love to have someone to talk to who has gone through this before!Jennahttp://www.thekingsareadopting.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-45708547603489674912011-08-16T17:01:49.232-04:002011-08-16T17:01:49.232-04:00Thank you for writing this. My husband and I are i...Thank you for writing this. My husband and I are in the midst of adopting a 2 1/2 year old little boy. In the process of falling in love with him, I have started to grieve for his family. He is so beautiful and a wonderful human being. What heartache it must be for them to have to give him up. We are doing an open adoption, but I think only the aunt and grandmother will be in contact from what we are experiencing. With them, he will have history, additional family, and stories about him as an infant, and people who look like him. I hope another child finds you soon:)Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08066959142166517431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-20017111373671099222011-06-23T19:19:04.922-04:002011-06-23T19:19:04.922-04:00Wonderful article. It's like you took the thou...Wonderful article. It's like you took the thoughts from my mind & put them on paper.<br />Thankyou :)Tinkerbells Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18386538708165966584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-59216904834185533202011-06-20T23:38:11.622-04:002011-06-20T23:38:11.622-04:00good luck to both of you. i hope you are blessed w...good luck to both of you. i hope you are blessed with another angel soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-4042289436267356762011-05-17T23:29:54.925-04:002011-05-17T23:29:54.925-04:00A wonderful message. I agree wholeheartedly!A wonderful message. I agree wholeheartedly!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10708501384681713028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-63468192467744231322011-05-05T23:30:51.703-04:002011-05-05T23:30:51.703-04:00@Kate, at this point we have spent so much money o...@Kate, at this point we have spent so much money on our current agency and a failed adoption, we can't sign on with anything as much as that. I bookmarked their site because it does look fairly affordable compared to a lot of places.<br /><br />Thanks for the info because I was no aware of their program in all my web searching.Kathy Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02567965038777921119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-76304015850653894422011-05-05T21:09:32.660-04:002011-05-05T21:09:32.660-04:00Have you looked into Adoption Link in Illinois. We...Have you looked into Adoption Link in Illinois. We adopted both of our sons through there. They are supportive of same sex couples and are reasonably priced as far as agencies go. They specialize in African American and biracial babies. http://www.adoption-link.org/default.aspx<br /><br />Best of luck to you.<br /><br />Kate<br />http://thrivingdespiteus.blogspot.com/Katehttp://thrivingdespiteus.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-69456524116447838642011-05-05T20:42:21.903-04:002011-05-05T20:42:21.903-04:00@Chittiesterchildren, Would love to hear about you...@Chittiesterchildren, Would love to hear about your referral services that were reasonable. I haven't seen any--or they look like they lead to huge charges.Kathy Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02567965038777921119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-47750207554241113252011-05-05T19:51:21.889-04:002011-05-05T19:51:21.889-04:00We signed with 4 referral services, which cost fro...We signed with 4 referral services, which cost from $0 to $200. Upon match or placement, they receive a larger fee, but they're quite reasonable, I think. We matched through one of them, and neither they nor the agency will take fees until the baby is placed. <br /><br />I know if we had unlimited funds, we would have matched by now. We had to pass up dozens of situations because they were simply too expensive. I really don't know where all the money goes in some of these cases.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-51160478280502843232011-05-03T12:53:57.609-04:002011-05-03T12:53:57.609-04:00Hear, hear!
"That doesn't mean we should...Hear, hear!<br /><br />"That doesn't mean we should only act like decent people until we finalize our adoption. Not honoring the adoption plan is not right to do to the birth mother, and it is definitely not the right thing to do to your child."Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-36947588881845978382011-05-03T11:19:11.025-04:002011-05-03T11:19:11.025-04:00Very nicely stated. You have a great understandin...Very nicely stated. You have a great understanding of how relinquishment affects us as birthparents.<br /><br />I have regret and grief. That doesn't mean that I don't trust that my child is being parented by wonderful people. <br /><br />I am just a mother without her child. I am glad I feel that way because it proves that I loved my daughter enough to choose something different for her. Not because I didn't love her.<br /><br />I wish all adoptive couples had your same level of respect for the relationship that a birthmother can have with a child. Our relationship with your child takes away the mystery and can allow your child to love you completely without the wonder of origins and why they are in a family other than the one they were born into.<br /><br />I also agree that not all birthmothers understand boundaries, but I will say that many of us do. We want you to be the parents of our child. We chose you. <br /><br />I don't think any of the birthmothers who are like me would ever want to interfere with your role as parent. <br /><br />Treating us with respect, honoring our unique role in your child's life, and being thoughtful of our feelings makes the adoption relationship the beautiful thing it can be.<br /><br />Relationships are tough. Marriages are hard. What makes us think adoption relationships would be any easier? But if we all act in love and compassion for one another, most of the bumps in the road can be overcome.<br /><br />Thank you for this thoughtful post.LisaAnnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06436140358037471855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-24272260410149322252011-04-22T23:39:40.791-04:002011-04-22T23:39:40.791-04:00Thanks for giving us such positive comments. We kn...Thanks for giving us such positive comments. We know we are truly blessed, and we pray for the day when we get to share our lives with another beautiful angel in our lives.Kathy Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02567965038777921119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-69442188219996260372011-04-12T11:00:09.147-04:002011-04-12T11:00:09.147-04:00@Ferrol, you should arrange a time to go with us. ...@Ferrol, you should arrange a time to go with us. Maggie has been really wanting a play date with Rawson. I have some vegetarian friends who love Farm Burger--not sure what they order, but know there must be something vegetarian good on their menu.Kathy Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02567965038777921119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-72439548254030417362011-04-12T10:28:48.177-04:002011-04-12T10:28:48.177-04:00I'd like to try Farm Burger's quinoa burge...I'd like to try Farm Burger's quinoa burger.ferrolnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-14095881757380300872011-04-03T10:34:00.270-04:002011-04-03T10:34:00.270-04:00I love this video. Madison Avenue is suffering a ...I love this video. Madison Avenue is suffering a lost by not having you. You sure know how to sell. Anyone who did't pick you and Lisa for parents would have to be crazyValhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00912399592126504258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-39847314958748280162011-03-31T02:07:20.560-04:002011-03-31T02:07:20.560-04:00i hope all goes well for both lisa and kenny.i hope all goes well for both lisa and kenny.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-37006505208174895562011-03-30T23:32:14.138-04:002011-03-30T23:32:14.138-04:00Awww I so hope Lisa is doing better !! And Kenny, ...Awww I so hope Lisa is doing better !! And Kenny, too. We'd love to have Maggie come play if you guys need time to handle other items this week. <br />Just email/call if I can do anything... aaliaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-86678981773076815652011-03-29T11:23:25.886-04:002011-03-29T11:23:25.886-04:00I love what you just posted even though it made me...I love what you just posted even though it made me cry remembering your childhood. I wish I could tell you it gets easier, but it doesn't always happen real quick. But, thank you for the adorable daughter time you now give to me.Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00912399592126504258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4680914968634600769.post-75228516526297576562011-03-27T02:10:44.118-04:002011-03-27T02:10:44.118-04:00What a beautiful family. You are a family that ma...What a beautiful family. You are a family that makes the most of every day given. You truly appreciate life and all it offers. You are truly inspirational <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com